Putting "Aw" in Awkward: Embracing the Beauty of Awkwardness
Awkwardness: that universal feeling that creeps in when the silence stretches just a little too long, when words escape us, or when we trip over our own feet. We’ve all been there. The truth is, that awkward moments are not just an inevitable part of being human; they are a profound reflection of our shared experience. And to be very honest, I always felt a certain curiosity about this phenomenon and also looking for ways to deal with it and embrace it. Especially when I teach or do public speaking so I was very excited to come across a beautiful body of research of Alexandra Plakias. In her book “Awkwardness: A Theory” she delves into the essence of what it means to be awkward and the transformational power it holds when we embrace it.
Awkward situations often elicit discomfort, but they also serve as essential reminders of our humanity. Plakias argues that awkwardness should not be shunned but celebrated for the connections it fosters. It exists in the spaces where our vulnerability lies bare and where shared embarrassment can lead to laughter and camaraderie. It reminds us that we are all navigating life’s complexities together. Think about it: have you ever shared an awkward silence with a stranger that turned into a meaningful conversation? Or stumbled during a presentation, only to find that others relate to your blunder? These moments bridge the gap between individuals and create a tapestry of shared human experiences.
One of the most insightful aspects of Plakias’ work is the notion that awkwardness is not an isolated sensation. It’s a communal one. Awkwardness arises in contexts involving other people; it is inherently tied to social interactions. Recognizing that we are not alone in our awkwardness can transform the way we perceive these moments. Instead of internalizing these feelings as personal failures or inadequacies, we can view them as opportunities for connection and genuine engagement. Embracing our awkwardness invites others to do the same. When we share our own embarrassing stories, we open the door to vulnerability, allowing others to feel safe to express their own. It’s a beautiful cycle that promotes empathy and understanding. In a world that often emphasizes perfectionism and polished social interactions, embracing awkwardness can be an act of rebellion. It’s a way of saying, “I am human, just like you.”
In Plakias' theory, vulnerability is a key component of awkwardness. Our ability to recognize, accept, and share our vulnerability not only enhances our own sense of belonging but also strengthens our relationships with others. Imagine a world where we all embraced our quirks and missteps without shame. We’d be cultivating an environment where authenticity reigns, where honesty about our imperfections is celebrated rather than concealed. Taking a moment to reflect on times of awkwardness can also lead to profound personal growth. Every awkward moment carries a lesson. Whether it teaches us to communicate better, to laugh at ourselves, or to appreciate the unique tapestry that each person brings to the table, it contributes to our collective human experience.
Ultimately, the act of putting "aw" in "awkward" is not about erasing the feelings of discomfort but rather accepting them as a vital part of our lives. It’s about also finding a different perspective and spaciousness in the opportunity to connect and explore. It’s a reminder that embracing awkwardness has the power to enhance our emotional intelligence and encourage empathy within our communities. So the next time you find yourself in an awkward situation, remember that it is not just about you. It’s a shared moment, an opportunity to connect and grow. Let’s put the "aw" back into "awkward" and celebrate this beautiful aspect of the human experience - in embracing our awkwardness, we also embrace our humanity, creating a more connected and compassionate world for us all.